The First 60 Seconds: What to Do and What to Skip
The first sixty seconds of a child’s crisis decide everything. What to do, what to skip, and why logic never works when a nervous system is offline.
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Home Ground | The Village - Home and School | What not to say to a traumatized child (and what to say instead)
Words That Create Space Instead of Closing It Down
The words that actually help traumatized kids feel safe to talk — and why they ask nothing of the child except to be believed.
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Home Ground | The Village - Home and School | What not to say to a traumatized child (and what to say instead)
Phrases That Accidentally Shame Without Meaning To
The praise and comfort phrases that can accidentally shame traumatized kids — and what to say instead that doesn’t grade their pain.
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Home Ground | The Village - Home and School | What not to say to a traumatized child (and what to say instead)
The Problem With “I Know How You Feel”
Why “I know how you feel” fails traumatized kids — and what to say instead when you actually want to understand.
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Home Ground | The Village - Home and School | What not to say to a traumatized child (and what to say instead)
Why “You’re Safe Now” Can Backfire
Why telling a traumatized child “you’re safe now” often backfires — and what co-regulation actually requires instead.
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Home Ground | The Village - Home and School | Trauma-informed vs trauma-aware — what's actually the difference
Awareness Is Knowing It Exists. Informed Is Changing How You Respond.
Trauma-informed and trauma-aware aren’t the same thing — one is knowledge, the other is what actually changes because of it.
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What I Saw Inside Two Residential Facilities — And Why the Better One Still Wasn’t Good Enough
Two facilities, two failure modes: one polished, one glaring. What years inside residential care taught me about who gets believed.