Phrases That Accidentally Shame Without Meaning To
The praise and comfort phrases that can accidentally shame traumatized kids — and what to say instead that doesn’t grade their pain.
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The Problem With “I Know How You Feel”
Why “I know how you feel” fails traumatized kids — and what to say instead when you actually want to understand.
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Why “You’re Safe Now” Can Backfire
Why telling a traumatized child “you’re safe now” often backfires — and what co-regulation actually requires instead.
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Why Trauma-Informed Has to Be a Culture, Not a Training
Training teaches vocabulary. Culture decides what actually happens on an ordinary day. Here’s why trauma-informed care lives or dies in the difference.
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Awareness Is Knowing It Exists. Informed Is Changing How You Respond.
Trauma-informed and trauma-aware aren’t the same thing — one is knowledge, the other is what actually changes because of it.